Wednesday, December 31, 2008

New Year Wishes 2009

sonu2009I wish you Health...
So you may enjoy each day in comfort.

I wish you the Love of friends and family...
And Peace within your heart.

I wish you the Beauty of nature...
That you may enjoy the work of God.

I wish you Wisdom to choose priorities...
For those things that really matter in life.

I wish you Generosity so you may share...
All good things that come to you.

I wish you Happiness and Joy...
And Blessings for the New Year.

I wish you the best of everything...
That you so well deserve.

-Life Teacher

Monday, December 22, 2008

Friends are Forever

mriso

Sometimes in life,


you find a special friend;


someone who changes your life


by being a part of it.



Someone who makes you laugh


until you can't stop;


someone who makes you believe


that there really is good in this world.



Someone who convinces you


that there is an unlocked door


just waiting for you to open it.



This is forever friendship.



When you're down,


and the world seems dark and empty,


your forever friend lifts you up in spirit


and makes that dark and empty world


suddenly seem dark and full.



Your forever friend gets you through


the hard times, and the sad times,


and the confused times.



If you turn and walk away


your forever friend follows.


If you lose your way,


your forever friend guides you


and cheers you on.



Your forever friend holds your hand


and tells you that


everything is going to be a-okay.



And when you find such a friend,


you'll feel happy and complete,


because you need not worry.



You have a forever friend for life


and forever has no end.


-*Laurieann Kelly*



mri-so*

Saturday, November 8, 2008

Happy Birthday 08

Every year
one day is special
you meet with family
for a great celebration
a birthday to enjoy
Happy Birthday S*
turning one year older
but on some occasions
it may not be so pretty

people have bashes
people have parties
but i know most people
just celebrate with family
It's one night a year

there could be no fighting
everyone full of cheer
and it's delighting
I love these days

cause they are the times
my family is right
we have cake and ice cream
and sometimes a party
but as we get older
these days will be priceless.


Mriso*

Saturday, September 27, 2008

Buddhism Quotes

Focus:
All that we are is the result of what we have thought.

Friendship:
An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.

Calmness:
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned.

Attitude:
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

Self Discipline:
It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell.

Happiness:
Meditate. Live purely. Be quiet. Do your work with mastery. Like the moon, come out from behind the clouds! Shine.

Life:
The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.

Happiness:
Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.

Philosophy:
We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.

Business:
Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart to give yourself to it.
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Source - Life With Buddhism

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Recognize Toxic Friends


To feel happy and healthy we need to seek out what specifically brings us joy. High on the list is friendship. Instinctually, we gravitate to positive people to trigger positivism within ourselves. We look to our friends to interpret the big picture for us, to help us find a solution to dramatic problems that overwhelm us. We trust them with our secrets and often take their advice. However, over the years friends change and we change as well. Each decade reveals buried treasures of personality and personal growth. Careers, finances, status and intimate relationships undergo transformations. Our friends remember us way back when… And what if we should succeed? Jealousy, the green-eyed monster, slings its barbs, chipping away at our ability to trust. Et tu, Brutus? Here is how to recognize a toxic relationship and how not to fall apart


1-If your friend speaks to you sarcastically, and most of the remarks though they are housed in humor are basically insulting, eroding your self-esteem or your goals to move forward, this is the first sign of toxicity. Be alert and don't ignore it. Put up your invisible shield of light to protect your heart.


2-If you are sick with a chronic and serious illness, have lost your job, or are getting a divorce and your friend keeps asking you for the smallest, most intimate details about your condition, this is a sign of well-meaning toxicity. While you need to separate your identity from that of your plight, get back into life, your friend sees you only as the problem and is fascinated by it as though watching a house on fire, yet doing nothing to put it out. This is a clear signal to alert your friend that you would rather not talk about it. Your friend sees you as an object of pity while you need empowerment to heal. Eventually, you will need to free yourself from this friendship


3-If your friend tries to monopolize your time, possess you and limit your contact with others, by making you feel guilty of abandonment, then that friendship has become parasitic. Do not become enmeshed. Declare your independence.


4-If your friend is narcissistic, rarely complimenting you, tugging at your heart strings as to what you can do for her, calls you when it is convenient for her- even late at night, never remembering what is going on in your life, then be aware that you are being used and drained. Establish your boundaries, so that her soap opera does not become your soap opera. After awhile the same old story becomes redundant and boring. Friendship needs reciprocity.


5-To close the door on a friendship, gradually wean the two of you off one another. Speak less frequently on the phone. Meet for lunch or dinner with others, not alone, so that you can position yourself next to someone else in the group. Express your feelings honestly and try not to vent. Explain what is wrong. Listen to the answer- what is said as well as what is not said. See if you can salvage the relationship by clearing the air. Adopt a wait and see attitude. If the transgressions continue, let your friend know that it is not working for you.


As we get older, we have fewer friends and more acquaintances. We see with experienced eyes. We tend to expect more from our friends; perhaps we expect too much. Nevertheless, reserve judgment and forgive, but move on. Tap into your gut feelings. Just because you have a history with someone, doesn't mean you need to keep on repeating it. We outgrow many things during the course of a lifetime and take many detours. During the course of our journey we make new friends and exchange our gifts with them.



Source :-Debbie Mandel

Thursday, August 7, 2008

Tips to Unload Toxic Friend

Contrary to The myth of best friends forever, many female friendships don't always turn out the way we hoped they would. The friend who is constantly making one-sided demands of you is one disappointing example.


When a close friend is always in need of one thing or another---money, favors, introductions, coddling, praise, or simply more time than you have to give---the relationship begins to grow weary. You feel like you're walking around with an emotional ball and chain around your ankle.


The term toxic friendship refers to a variety of relationships that are consistently negative and draining. The nature of these relationships is defined by patterns, not by one-time or occasional lapses in the reciprocity that is the essence of a healthy friendship.


Why would anyone put up with a friend like that? It, too, can be explained by the concept of reciprocity. Friendships continue when they are mutually satisfying---even if the relationship is toxic. Many women have a hard time extricating themselves from these relationships. These include:


• People who like to feel needed


• People who feel like they aren't worthy of healthier, more balanced relationships


• People who are stuck---either feeling angry or sorry for their needy friend


Get real: If your truly needy friend has been that way for some time, the real possibilities of changing the relationship verge on hopeless. Yet it's hard to find a way out. Here are some ways to unload:


1) Change the nature of your friendship by learning to say "no" and setting boundaries (e.g. "Even though we are both single, I don't want to spend every Friday night together" or "I can't have dinners with you after work because I need to get home to my family."')


2) Tell her that you have to tend to your own needs (or those of anyone else you can think of---your mother, your kid or your cat)


3) Slip away - Spend less time with her and add other less demanding friends to your inventory


4) Take a relationship sabbatical, a well-deserved hiatus from the friendship



5) If you've reached the point where you feel there is nothing really to lose, simply cut loose!

Get rid of the guilt. These are people whose needs can never be satiated. No matter what you give, what you do, how much, or how often, it will never be enough. Since character tends to endure, this person probably treats other people the same way she treats you. It's likely that many of her friends have probably already dropped out of the picture and that's why she is so dependent on you.



Source : Fractured Friendships

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

I Lost Her Forever

I've looked this school over
there is still no trace of you
Just the memory of your face,
and all of the crazy things we used to do

I am trying to understand
why you left so fast,
I remember the good 'ole days
when we had fun in class

the angels called for you~
much sooner than i planned-
i promise i will see you so in the Holy Land

Will you remember me,
and the laughter that we shared
because ever since you left
life seems so unfair

why oh why
would God take you away
i never imagined it would end this way
i took for granted you were here to stay

the tears fall freely
as i sit here and write
i thought they would have stopped by now
i have tried to stop
but the pain has been too much
My life has been touched
by an angel you see...

An angel who has been set free.. Mriso*

Saturday, June 28, 2008

God Listen Our Problem

God, I called tonight,
To talk a little while.
I need your help solve,
To my friends anxiety.

God you see, We can't quite make it
Through a day just on our own.
we need your love to guide us,
So We'll never feel alone.

I want to ask you please to keep

My friend's family safe and sound.
Come and fill their lives with confidence,
For whatever fate they're bound.



Give her faith, dear God, to face,
Each hour throughout the day.

And not to worry over things,
We can't change in any way.

we thank you God, for being home,
And listening to our problems.

For giving us such good advice,
When we stumble and fall.

Your number, God, is the only one,

That answers every time.
We never get a busy signal,
And never had to pay a dime.

So thank you, God, for listening,
To our troubles and sorrow.
Good night, God. We love You, too,
And We'll call again tomorrow!

Thursday, June 12, 2008

World Wonders - II

World Wonders

Tower of Pisa (itlay)


The Tower of Pisa is one of the most fascinating and worldwide-known Italian monumTower of Pisaents, admired for the exceptional elegance of its architectural structure, as well as for the extraordinary inclination.Founded in 1173 as steeple annexed to the Dome (started in 1064 by the architect Buscheto) and to the Baptistery (started in 1152 by the architect Deotisalvi) in "Piazza dei Miracoli" (Miracles Square), the "leaning tower" is commonly attributed to Bonanno.During some excavations carried out in the 19 th century in the foundations of the steeple an urn was found having this name, which was thought to refer to the tower's builder. Scholars proposed to identify the Bonanno mentioned on the urn with the famous sculptor from Pisa who made the bronze gates of Pisa's Dome (where the gate of the façade, of 1179, went lost, while the other one, the so-called "Gate of S. Ranieri", is still preserved and can be seen outside the southern transept) and the gate of Monreale's Cathedral (dated 1185).However, after only 12 years (1185) there were the first signs of subsidence of the ground, which caused the tower's inclination and led to the interruption of works in the middle of the third floor.The construction was restarted only in 1275 by Giovanni di Simone and finished in the second half of the 14th century.


Machu Picchu, Peru


Machu Picchu (which means "Old Peak") was most likely a royal estate and religious retreat. It was built between 1460 and 1470 AD by Pachacuti Inca Yupanqui, an Incan ruler. The city has an altitude Machu Picchuof 8,000 feet, and is high above the Urubamba River canyon cloud forest, so it likely did not have any administrative, military or commercial use. After Pachacuti’s death, Machu Picchu became the property of his allus , or kinship group, which was responsible for it’s maintenance, administration, and any new Machu Picchu is comprised of approximately 200 buildings, most being residences, although there are temples, storage structures and other public buildings. It has polygonal masonry, characteristic of the late Inca period.About 1,200 people lived in and around Machu Picchu, most of them women, children, and priests. The buildings are thought to have been planned and built under the supervision of professional Inca architects. Most of the structures are built of granite blocks cut with bronze or stone tools, and smoothed with sand. The blocks fit together perfectly without mortar, although none of the blocks are the same size and have many faces; some have as many as 30 corners.


Red Square and the Kremlin , Moscow (Russia)Red Square and the Kremlin


Inextricably linked to all the most important historical and political events in Russia since the 13th century, the Kremlin (built between the 14th and 17th centuries by outstanding Russian and foreign architects) was the residence of the Great Prince and also a religious centre. At the foot of its ramparts, on Red Square, St Basil's Basilica is one of the most beautiful Russian Orthodox monuments.


Sana'a City,YemenSana'a City


Situated in a mountain valley at an altitude of 2,200 m, Sana’a has been inhabited for more than 2,500 years. In the 7th and 8th centuries the city became a major centre for the propagation of Islam. This religious and political heritage can be seen in the 103 mosques, 14 hammams and over 6,000 houses, all built before the 11th century. Sana’a’s many-storeyed tower-houses built of rammed earth (pisé) add to the beauty of the site.


Angkor Wat, CambodiaAngkor Wat


The whole Angkor period spans for more than VI centuries, and more precisely from IX till XV century. During this period the Khmer empire reached its maximum splendor as one of the most powerful Southeast Asian kingdoms. In this period the whole area of Angkor was buit. We can consider Jayavarman II as the man that started everything. He define himself Devaraja (good king) and he established the Khmer empire in 802.


After him, Indravarman, a king considered by many of its time an usurper: we prefer to remember him for starting building the Baray, a complex irrigation system to bring waters in the area of Angkor. He also started to build the Bakong and the Preah Ko temples. His son Yasovarman went further in his father's project: he built the Phnom Bakheng and the Lolei temples, and with him, become the new capital of the kingdom. These two king further extent the Baray's system too.Then the capital was moved to Koh Ker for a short period, under the kingdom of Jayavarman IV, an usurper, but after only 14 years Angkor become again the capital under Rajendravarman II. His son, Jayavarman V, was instead a great king, and with him the empire expanded to its maximum extent. Two wonderful temples, as Banteay Srei and Ta Keo were built. After him, Udayaditavarman II built the pyramid of Baphuon and the western Mebon (we are now at the half of XI century), and here we are really close to the very peak of the Khmer civilization, two great king the left once forever their footstep in the history of this planet and they are Suryavarman II and Jayavarman II. The first king built Bang Melea but it also the one that built Angkor Wat. The second king has built Preach Khan, Ta Phrom and Angkor Thom.


Alhambra Granada ( Spain)Alhambra Granada


The history of the Alhambra is linked with the geographical place where it is located: Granada. On a rocky hill that is difficult to access, on the banks of the River Darro, protected by mountains and surrounded by woods, among the oldest quarters in the city, the Alhambra rises up like an imposing castle with reddish tones in its ramparts that prevent the outside world from seeing the delicate beauty they enclose.Originally designed as a military area, the Alhambra became the residence of royalty and of the court of Granada in the middle of the thirteenth century, after the establishment of the Nasrid kingdom and the construction of the first palace, by the founder king Mohammed ibn Yusuf ben Nasr, better known as Alhamar.Throughout the thirteenth, fourteenth and fifteenth centuries, the fortress became a citadel with high ramparts and defensive towers, which house two main areas: the military area, or Alcazaba, the barracks of the royal guard, and the medina or court city, the location of the famous Nasrid Palaces and the remains of the houses of noblemen and plebeians who lived there. The Charles V Palace (which was built after the city was taken by the Catholic Monarchs in 1492) is also in the medina.


Versailles (France)Versailles France


The first mention of Versailles appeared in a charter of the Abbey of Saint-Pére de Chartres (1038).After ownership by the Seigneur de Soisy, then by Martial de Loménie, who was the Secretary of Finances during the reign of Charles IX, the estate was bought by Albert de Gondi, who became Duke of Retz and Marshal of France. Gondi received at Versailles Henry III and his brother-in-law, the King of Navarre, the future Henry IV of France, who liked to hunt on his friend's well-stocked estate. This passion for the hunt, which was passed on to all his descendents, would help shape the destiny of Versailles. The king, in fact, was sometimes accompanied by the young daphin, and it is thus that the future Louis XIII took to this naturally wild place. As king he would often return in the company of friends to hunt.In 1623, in order not to stay any longer at the local inn, he built on the summit of the hill, where a windmill formerly stood, a lodge constructed of brick and stone which he extended some years later.During construction of the Lodge, Louis XIII acquired more land and bought the Estate of Versailles from Jean-François de Gondi, archbishop of Paris and Albert's heir.During the first years of his reign, Louis XIV only rarely visited Versailles; however, once married, he often traveled there with the queen and the court. In 1661 began the construction work that would quickly transform the retreat into an amiable residence appropriate to receive the royal family.Simultaneously, André Le Nôtre made the lay-out for the new gardens whilst Louis Le Vau built the Orangerie and the Ménagerie.The Château, thus remodeled, became a place for festivities. Les Plaisirs de l'Ile Enchantée (The Pleasures of the Enchanted Isle) in May 1664 and the Grand Divertissement (The Grand Royal Entertainment) on July 18th, 1668 dazzled all who experienced them and made Versailles known throughout Europe.

World Wonders - I

World Wonders

The Great Wall (China)


The Great Wall of China is not a continuous wall but is a collection of short walls that often follow the crest of hills on the southern edge of the Mongolian plain. Overall, the wall extends about 1500 Great wall of china miles (2400 kilometers).A first set of walls, designed to keep Mongol nomads out of China, were built of earth and stones in wood frames during the Qin Dynasty (221-206 BCE).Some additions and modifications were made to these simple walls over the next millennium but the major construction of the "modern" walls began in the Ming Dynasty (1388-1644 CE). The Ming fortifications were established in new areas from the Qin walls. They were up to 25 feet (7.6 meters) high, 15 to 30 feet (4.6 to 9.1 meters) wide at the base, and from 9 to 12 feet (2.7 to 3.7 meters) wide at the top (wide enough for marching troops or wagons).in 1987 the Great Wall of China was made a World Heritage Site


Potala Palace, Lhasa (Tibet)


Perched upon hill, 130 meters above the Lhasa valley, the Potala rises a further 170 metPotala Palaceers and is the greatest monumental structure in all of Early legends concerning the rocky hill tell of a sacred cave, considered to be the dwelling place of the Bodhisattva Chenresi (Avilokiteshvara), that was used as a meditation retreat by Emperor Songtsen Gampo in the seventh century AD. In 637 Songtsen Gampo built a palace on the hill. This structure stood until the seventeenth century, when it was incorporated into the foundations of the greater buildings still standing today. Construction of the present palace began in 1645 during the reign of the fifth Dalai Lama and by 1648 the Potrang Karpo, or White Palace, was completed. The Potrang Marpo, or Red Palace, was added between 1690 and 1694; its construction required the labors of more than 7000 workers and 1500 artists and craftsman. In 1922 the 13th Dalai Lama renovated many chapels and assembly halls in the White Palace and added two stories to the Red Palace.


Taj Mahal (India)


Taj Mahal was built by a Muslim, Emperor Shah Jahan (died 1666 C.E.) in the memory of his dearTaj Mahal wife and queen Mumtaz Mahal at Agra, India. It is an "elegy in marble" or some say an expression of a "dream." Taj Mahal (meaning Crown Palace) is a Mausoleum that houses the grave of queen Mumtaz Mahal at the lower chamber. The grave of Shah Jahan was added to it later. The queen’s real name was Arjumand Banu. In the tradition of the Mughals, important ladies of the royal family were given another name at their marriage or at some other significant event in their lives, and that new name was commonly used by the public. Shah Jahan's real name was Shahab-ud-din, and he was known as Prince Khurram before ascending to the throne in 1628.


Taj Mahal was constructed over a period of twenty-two years, employing twenty thousand workers. It was completed in 1648 C.E. at a cost of 32 Million Rupees. The construction documents show that its master architect was Ustad ‘Isa, the renowned Islamic architect of his time. The documents contain names of those employed and the inventory of construction materials and their origin. Expert craftsmen from Delhi, Qannauj, Lahore, and Multan were employed. In addition, many renowned Muslim craftsmen from Baghdad, Shiraz and Bukhara worked on many specialized tasks.


Colosseum, Rome ( Italy )


In 68AD Emperor Nero died and with him the Julio-Claudian dynasty. Vespasian, was made emperorColosseum by the Senate in the following year and decided the city needed a new amphitheatre. Just like a modern politician, such gestures simultaneously pleased the populace and would (hopefully) leave a lasting monument to the emperor's greatness. Well maybe. The city's first amphitheatre in stone had been built in 29BC by Statilius Taurus, but Caligula (12-41AD) had adjudged it too small and started building his own.


Claudius succeeded Caligula and immediately halted his grand plan. And when Nero ruled Rome he eschewed the Statilius arena and made plans for his own, to be built in the Campus Martis. A magnificent building by all accounts, but razed in the fire that swept Rome in 64AD.


Statues of Easter Island (Chile)


One of the world's most famous yet least visited archaeological sites,Easter Island is a small, Statues of Easter Island hilly, now treeless island of volcanic origin. Located in the Pacific Ocean at 27 degrees south of the equat or and some 2200 miles (3600 kilometers) off the coast of Chile, it is considered to be the world’s most remote inhabited island. Sixty-three square miles in size and with three extinct volcanoes (the tallest rising to 1674 feet), the island is, technically speaking, a single massive volcano rising over ten thousand feet from the Pacific Ocean floor. The oldest known traditional name of the island is Te Pito o Te Henua, meaning ‘The Center (or Navel) of the World.’ In the 1860’s Tahitian sailors gave the island the name Rapa Nui, meaning ‘Great Rapa,’ due to its resemblance to another island in Polynesia called Rapa Iti, meaning ‘Little Rapa’. The island received its most well known current name, Easter Island, from the Dutch sea captain Jacob Roggeveen who became the first European to visit Easter Sunday, April 5, 1722


Pyramids of Chichen Ltza, Yucatan (Mexico)


The famous Mayan pyramids of Chichen-Itza are over 1500 years old and are located only 75 milPyramids of Chichen Ltzaes from Merida. The name Chichen-Itza is a Mayan word: CHI (mouth) CHEN (well) and ITZA (of the Itza tribe). Some believe people were occasionally thrown into the nearby cenote as sacrifices, and those who survived were believed to be seers.But the true mystery behind the ball court at Chichen-Itza is the Mayan prophecy that on Dec. 22, 2012, the great warrior serpent Kukulkán will rise from the ground beneath the playing field and end the world for good. Even if you're not one to believe in predictions, it's still exhilarating and eerie to stand in the middle of the court, close your eyes and imagine.


The Eiffel Tower, Paris ( France )


Today, the Eiffel Tower has become a global icon of France, which is an iron tower built on the Champ de Mars beside the River Seine in Paris.This Parisian landmark named after its engineer designer, Eiffel TowerGustave Eiffel, is one of the most recognised structures in the world and is the tallest structure in Paris, and with 200,000,000 having visited the Eiffel Tower since its construction, this monument is the most visited paid monument per year.Constructed between 1887 and 1889, including the 24m antenna, the Eiffel Tower is 324m high and weighs 7,300 tons, which made it the worlds tallest structure until 1930 when it was beaten by New York City's Chrysler Building.The tower can sway 6 to 7cm in the wind and due to the thermal expansion of the metal on the side facing the sun, depending upon the ambient temperature, the top of the tower may shift away from the sun by up to 18cm.

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

About Friendship

About Friendship

Asking yourself the following questions about your relationship :


1- Do you have at least one person nearby whom you can call on in times of personal distress?


2- Do you have several people whom you can visit with little advance warning without apology?

3- Do you have several people with whom you can share recreational activities?


4- Do you have people who will lend you money of you need it, or those who will care for you in practical ways if the need arises?


If your response is largely negative, it may be that your friendships are being impeded by your social life! Some people immerse themselves in such a whirl of parties and social affairs that there is no opportunity to establish a close relationship. The fact of the matter is that one cannot have a profound connection with more than a few people. Time prohibits it. Deep friendship requires cultivation over the years- evenings before the fire, long walks together, and lots of time for talk. It requires keeping the television off so that the two of you can log in with each other. If your social calendar is too full to provide for such intimate bonding, it should be pared. “True happiness” said Ben Johnson, “consists not in the multitude of friends, but in the worth and choice”.


About Friendship

Some people get a strong sense of togetherness from being in large groups of people, and I am not arguing for or against an active social life. What I am lobbying for is an ordering of priorities. Getting close to a few people is more important than being popular enough to receive 1300 Birthday whishes cards every year...


How many people send to you wishes.....on your any special day...?

Friendship: Happiness

Happiness

The surest way to be miserable,” said George Bernard Shaw, “is to have the leisure to wonder whether or not you are happy.” We do not usually discover happiness in the pursuit of it. Most often it is a byproduct, coming to us as we are in the midst of giving ourselves to another.


S* expressed the meaning of intimacy for her: “With these friends you make a real effort, and then you break the barrier and you go beyond. This is a fantastic thing- you go home and lie awake because so many facts in your mind and soul have been opened. And when it is happening, I forget everything. It’s not physical at all. I can sit with a drink of water, and I don’t need any else. It’s a feeling of discovery that something here inside you seems to be growing and opening and expanding. And then the nest day I am more energetic and optimistic. Going trough the effort of sharing, of getting involved, was worthwhile. It is an increase of power, strength, and energy.


Why do we seldom relate at such a deep level? Why is there such a shortage of friendship? One simple reason: We do not devote ourselves sufficiently to it. If our relationships are the most valuable commodity we can own in this world, one would except that everyone everywhere would assign friendship highest priority. But for many, it does not even figure in their list of goals. They apparently assume that love will “just happen


But of course few of the valuable things in life “just happen”. When they happen it is because we recognize their importance and devote ourselves to them. You can have almost anything you want if you want it badly enough. If you want to make a million dollars badly enough you probably can do it. If you want to run the Boston Marathon badly enough you probably can do it. And if you want love you can have that too. It us simply a matter of priorities. Significant relationships come to those who assign them enough importance to cultivate them.

Monday, June 2, 2008

Why Some People Never Lack Friends

Why Some People Never Lack Friends


However Hughes was one of the richest man in the world, with the destines of thousands of people- perhaps even of governments- at his disposal, yet he lived a sunless joyless, half- lunatic life. In his later years he fled from one resort hotel to another Las Vegas, Nicaragua, Acapulco – and his physical appearance became odder and odder. His straggly beard hung down to his waist and his hair reached to the middle of his back. His fingernails were two inches long and his toenails hadn’t been trimmed for so long they resembled corkscrews.


Hughes was married for 13 years to Jean Peters, one of the most beautiful women in the world. But never in that time were the two seen in public together, and there is no record of their ever having been photographed together. For a while they occupied separate bungalows at the Beverly Hills Hotel (at $175 per day each), and later she lived in an opulent and carefully guarded French Regency house atop a hill in Bel Ait, making secretive and increasingly infrequent trips to be with Hughes in Las Vegas.


They were divorced in 1970.


“As far as I know.” a Hughes confident once said, “He’s never loved any woman. It’s sex, or a good secretary, or good box office – that is all a woman means to him” Hughes often said. “Every man has his price or a guy like me couldn’t exist,” yet no amount of money bought the affection of his associates. Most of his employees who have broken the silence report their disgust for him.


Why was Hughes so isolated and so lonely? Why, with almost unlimited money, hundreds of aids, and countless beautiful women available to him, was he so unloved?


Simple because he chose to be....


It is an old axiom that god gave us things to use and people to enjoy. Hughes never learned to enjoy people. He was too busy manipulating them. His interests were money- interests so consuming as to exclude relationship.

Friday, May 30, 2008

Tips: Male-Female Friendship

Male-Female Friendship

Here are six ideas for keeping your sexual feelings under control and still enjoying deep friendship: -


1- Don’t trust yourself too far. Be aware of the ebb and flow of your sexual desire. Most of us vary greatly in the amount of sexual feeling we have, and at times its power can rush in on us if we are not prepared. If you sexuality is at flood tide, then exercise extra caution.


2- Select companions who have strong marriages themselves. If your friend is hungry love, it may be very difficult to keep the relationship within bounds.


3- Be sensible about when and where you meet alone. Some settings are more sexual than others. Lunch, for instance, is not as likely to lead to trouble as dinner at a restaurant filled with lovers eating by candlelight


4- Talk to your mate about your friendships. When meetings become clandestine single that things are getting out of hand. Either bring yourself to tell your spouse about the progression of the friendship or get out.


5- Draw a line for physical contact. Find the amount of physical affection that is comfortable and safe for you; since no one can stay in control once sexual touching and kissing cross a certain boundary.


6- Ball out if necessary. Once in a while, no matter how much we try, a friendship with the opposite sex gets out of hand and we know where it is going to lead. If your marriage is precious to you, there is no question of what must be done, however great the pain you back away.

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

The Power of Concentration

The Power of Concentration

The main difference between men and the animals is the difference in their power of concentration. All success in any line of work is the result of this. Everybody knows something about concentration. We see its results every day. High achievements is art, music, etc. are the result of concentration. Those who have trained animals find much difficulty in the fact that the animal is constantly forgetting what is told him. He cannot concentrate his mind long upon anything at a time. Here is the difference between a man and the animals- man has the grater power of concentration. The difference in there power of concentration also constitutes the difference between man and man. The difference is in the degree of concentration. This is the only difference


Everybody’s mind becomes concentrated at times. We all concentrate upon those things we love, and we love those things upon which we concentrate our minds. What mother is there that does not love the face of her homeliest child? That face is to her the most beautiful in the world. She loves it because she concentrates her mind upon it; and if every one could concentrate his mind on that same face, everyone would be to all the most beautiful face. We all concentrate our minds upon those things we love.


That great trouble with such concentrate is that we do not control the mind; it controls us. Something outside of ourselves, as it were, draws the mind into it and holds it as long as it chooses. We hear melodious tones or see a beautiful painting, and the mind is held fast; we cannot take it away.


If I speak to you well upon a subject you like, your mind becomes concentrated upon what I am saying. I draw your mind away from yourself and hold it upon the subject in spite your self. Thus our attention is hold; our minds are concentrated upon various things, in spite of ourselves. We cannot help it.


Now the question is; can this concentration be developed, and can we become masters of it? The yogis say, yes. The yogis say that we can get perfect control of the mind. On the ethical side there is danger in the development of the power of concentration – the danger of concentrating the mind upon an object and then being unable to detach at will. This state causes great suffering. Almost all of our suffering is caused by our not having the power of detachment. So along with the development of concentration we must develop the power of detachment. We must learn not only to attach the mind to one thing exclusively, but also to detach it at a moment’s notice and place it on something else these two should be developed together to make it safe.


This is the systematic development of the mind. To me the very essence of education is concentration of mind, not the collection of facts. If I had to do my education over again, and had any voice in the matter, I would not study facts at all. I would develop the power of concentration and detachment, and then with a perfect instrument I could collect facts at will. Side by side, in the child, should be developed the power of concentration and detachment.


How has all the knowledge in the world been gained but by the concentration of the powers of the mind? The world is ready to give up its secrets if we only know how to knock, how to give it the necessary blow. The strength and force of the blow come through concentration. There is no limit to the power of the human mind. The more concentrated it is, the more power is brought to bear on one point; that is the secret.


In training the mind the first step is to begin with breathing. Regular breathing puts the body in a harmonious condition; and it is then easier to reach the mind. In practicing breathing, the first thing to consider in Asana or posture. Any posture in which a person can sit easily is his proper position. The spine should be kept free, and the weight of the body should be supposed be the ribs. Do not try by contrivances to control the mind; simple breathing is all that is necessary in that line.



Source:- “Personality Development” written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Develop the Sense of Equality

Develop the Sense of Equality

Do not pity anyone. Look upon all as your equal; cleanse yourself of the primal sin of inequality. We are all equal and must not think, “I am good and you are bad, and I am trying to reclaim you’. Equality is the sign of the free....


Only sinners see sin. See not man, see only the Lord. We manufacture our own heaven and can make a heaven even in hell. Sinners are only to be found in hell, and as long as we see them around us, we are there ourselves.


Men must have education. They speak of democracy, of the equality of all men, these days. But how will a man know he is equal with all? He must have a strong brain, a clear mind free of nonsensical ideas. He must pierce through the mass of superstitions encrusting his mind to the pure truth that is in his inmost self. Then he will know that all perfections, all powers are already with in himself that these have not to be given him by others. When he realizes this, he becomes free that moment, he achieves equality. He also realizes that every one else is equally as perfect as he, and he does not have to exercise any power, physical, mental or moral, over his brother men. He abandons the idea that there was ever any man who was lower than himself. Then he can talk of equality; not until then.



Source:- “Personality Development” written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

Monday, May 26, 2008

Faith in Oneself

Faith in Oneself

The ideal of faith in ourselves is of the greatest help to us. if faith in ourselves had been more extensively taught and practiced, I am sure a very large portion of the evils and miseries that we have would have vanished. Throughout the history of mankind, if any motive power has been more potent than another in the lives of all great men and women, it is that of faith in them. Born with the consciousness that they were to be great, they became great. Let a man go down as low as possible; there must come a time when out of sheer desperation he will take an upward curve and will learn to have faith in himself. But it is better for us that we should know it from the very first.


To the man who has begun to hate himself the gate to degeneration has already opened; and the same is true of a nation.


Our first duty is not to hate ourselves, because to advance we must have faith in ourselves first and then in God. He who has no faith in himself can never have faith in God.


Whatever you think that you will be. If you think yourselves weak, weak you will be; if you think yourselves strong, strong you will be; if you think yourselves impure. Impure you will be; if you think yourselves pure, pure you will be. This teaches us not to think ourselves as weak, but as strong, omnipotent, omniscient. No matter that I have not expressed No matter that I have not expressed it yet, it is in me. All knowledge in me, all power, all purity, and all freedom. Why cannot I express this knowledge? Because I don’t believe in it. Let me believe in it, and it must and will come out.


The history of the world is the history of a few men who had faith in themselves. That faith calls out the divinity within. You can do anything. You fail only when you do not strive sufficiently to manifest infinite power. As soon as a man or a nation loses faith. Death comes.



Source:- “Personality Development” written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

Saturday, May 24, 2008

Be Brave

Be Brave

I once read a story about a ship that was caught in a cyclone in the south Sea Island, and there was a picture of it in the ILLUSTRATED London News. All of them were wrecked except one English vessel, which weathered the storm. The picture showed the men who were going to be drowned, standing on the decks and cheering the people who were sailing through the storm. Be brave and generous like that.


Whenever darkness comes, assert the reality and everything adverse must vanish. For, after all, it is but a dream. Mountain high though the difficulties appear, terrible and gloomy though all things seem, they are but delusions. Fear not- it is banished. Crush it, and it vanishes. Stamp upon it, and it dies. Be not afraid. Think not how many times you fail. Never mind. Time is infinite. Go forward; assert yourself again and again, and light must come. You may pray to everyone that was ever born, but who will come to help you? And what of the way of death from which none knows escape? Help thyself out by thyself. None else can help thee, friend. For thou alone art thy greatest enemy, thou alone art thy greatest friends. Get hold of the self, then. Stand up. Don’t be afraid.


Go on bravely. Do not expect success in a day or a year. Always hold on to the highest. Be steady. Avoid jealousy and selfishness. Be obedient and eternally faithful to the cause of truth, humanity and your country, and your will move the world. Remember it is the person, the life, which is the secret of power – nothing else... jealousy is the bane of all slaves. It is the bane of our nation. Avoid that always. All blessing attend you and all success.



Source:- “Personality Development” written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

Doing Good to This World

Doing Good to This World

Our duty to others means helping others; doing well to the. Why should we do good to the world? Apparently to help the world, but really to help ourselves. We should always try to help the world that should be highest motive in us; but if we consider well, we find that the world does not require our help at all. This world was not made that you or I should come and help it. I once read a sermon in which it was said “this entire beautiful world is very good, because it gives us time and opportunity to help others”. Apparently, this is a very beautiful sentiment, but is it not a blasphemy to say that the world needs our help? We cannot deny that there is much misery in it; to go out and help others is, therefore, the best thing we can do, although in the long run, we shall find that helping others is only helping ourselves.


Yet we must do good; the desire to do good is the highest motive power we have, if we know all the time that it is a privilege to help others. Do not stand on a high pedestal and take five cents in your hand and say, “Here, my poor man,” but be grateful that the poor man is there, so that by making a gift to him you are able to help yourself. It is not the receiver that is blessed, but it is giver. Be thankful that you are allowed to exercise your power of benevolence and mercy in the world, and thus become pure and perfect.


We become forgetful of the ego when we think of the body as dedicated to the service of others- the body with which most complacently we identify the ego. And in the long run comes the consciousness of disembodiedness. The more intently you think of the well-being of others, the more oblivious of self you become. In this way, as gradually your heart gets purified by work, you will come to feel the truth that your own self is pervading all beings and all things. Thus it is that doing good to others constitutes a way, a means of revealing one’s own self or ATMAN. Know this also to be one of the spiritual practices, a discipline for God- realization. Its aim also is Self-realization.


When you give something to a man and expect nothing – do not even expect the man to be grateful- his ingratitude will not tell upon you, because you never expected anything, never thought you had any right to anything in the way of a return. You gave him what he deserved; his own KARAMA got it for him; your KARMA made you the carrier thereof. Why should you be proud of having given away something? You are the porter that carried the money or other kind of gift, and the world deserved it by its own KARAMA. Where is then the reason for pride in you? There is nothing very great in what you give to the world.



Ask nothing; want nothing in return. Give what you have to give; it well come back multiplied a thousand folds- but the attention must not be on that. Yet have the power to give; give, and there it ends. Learn that the whole of life is giving, that nature will force you to give. So, give willingly. Sooner or late you will have to give up. You come in to life to accumulate. With clenched hands, you want to take. But nature puts a hand on your throat and makes your hands open. Whether you will it or not, you have to give. The moment you say. “I
will not”, the blow comes; you are hurt. None is there but will be compelled, in the long run, to give up everything. And the more one struggles against this law, the more miserable one feels. It is because we dare not give, because we are not resigned enough to accede to this grand demand of nature, that we are miserable. The forest is gone, but we get heat in return. The sun is taking up water from the ocean, to return it in showers. You are a machine for taking and giving; you take, in order to give, Ask, therefore, nothing in return; but the more you give, the more will come to you. The quicker you can empty the air out of this room, the quicker it will be filled up by the external air; and if you close all the doors and every aperture, that which is within will never come in,and that which is within will stagnate, degenerate, and become poisoned. A river is continually emptying itself into the ocean and is continually filling up again. Bar not the exit into the ocean. The moment you do that, death seizes you.


Wisdom, knowledge, wealth, men, strength, prowess, and whatever else nature gathers and provides us with, are all only for diffusion, when the moment of need is at hand. We often forget this fact, put the stamp of “mine only” upon the entrusted deposits, and pari passu, we sow the seed of our own ruin!


Source:- “Personality Development” written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

It is Love that Pays

It is Love that Pays

Nothing else is necessary but these love, sincerity and patience. What is life but growths, i.e. expansion, i.e. love? Therefore all love is life, it is the only law of life; all selfishness is death, and this is true here or hereafter. It is life to do well; it is death not to do well to others. Ninety percent of human brutes you see are dead.


Are ghosts- for none lives, my boys, but he who loves? Feel, my children, feel; fee; for the poor, the ignorant, the downtrodden; feel till the heart stops and the brain reels till the heart stops and the brain reels and you think you will go mad- then pour the soul out at the feet of the lord, and then well come power, help, and indomitable energy ...Be not afraid, my children. Look not up in that attitude of fear towards that infinite starry vault as if it would you crush you. Wait! In a few hours more, the whole of it will be under your feet. ait, money does not pay, nor name; fame does not pay, nor learning. It is love that pays; it is the character that cleaves its way through adamantine walls of difficulties.


Those who are men and yet have no feeling in the heart for man, well, are such to be counted as men at all?



Duty is seldom sweet. it is only when love greases its wheels that is runs smoothly; it is a continuous friction otherwise. How else could parents do their
duties their children, husbands to their wives, and vice versa? Do we not meet with cases of friction every day in our lives? Duty is sweet only through love, and love shines in freedom alone. Yet is it freedom to be a slave to the sense, to anger. to jealousies and a hundred other pretty things that must occur every day in human life? in all these little rough nesses that we meet with in life, the highest expression of freedom is to forbear. Women, slaves to their own irritable, jealous tempers, Are apt to their blame their husbands, and assert their own “freedom”, as they think, not knowing that thereby they only prove that they are slaves. So it is with husbands who eternally find fault with their wives.


Love never fails, my son; today or tomorrow or ages after, truth will conquer. Love shall win the victory. Do you love your fellow –men? Where should you go to seek for god - are not all the poor, the miserable, the weak gods? Why not worship them first? Why go to dig a well on the shores of Ganga? Believe in the omnipotent power of love. Who cares for these tinsel puffs of name? I never keep watch of what the newspapers are saying. Have you loved? You are omnipotent. Are you perfectly unselfish? If so, you are irresistible. It is character that pays everywhere. It is the lord who protects his children in the depths of the sea.


The individual’s life is in the life of the whole, the individual’s happiness is in the happiness of the whole; apart from the whole the individual’s existence is inconceivable – this is an eternal truth and is the bed-rock on which the universe is built. To more slowly towards the infinite whole, bearing a constant feeling of intense sympathy and sameness with it. Being happy with its happiness and being distressed in its affliction, is the individual’s sole duty. Not only is it his duty, but in its transgression is his death, while compliance with this great truth leads to life immortal.



If in this hell of a world one can bring a little joy and peace even for a day into the heart of a single person, that much alone is true; this I have learnt
after suffering all my life; all else is mere moonshine......


Source:- “Personality Development” written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

Friday, May 23, 2008

Unselfishness will Bring Success

Unselfishness will Bring Success

All outgoing energy following a selfish motive is frittered away; it will not cause power to return to you; but if restrained, it will result in development of power. This self-control will tend to produce a mighty will, a character which makes a Christ or a Buddha. Foolish men do not know this secret; they nevertheless want to rule mankind. Even a fool may rule the whole world if he works and waits. Let him wait a few years, restrain that foolish idea is wholly gone; he will be a power in the world. The majority of us cannot see beyond a few years……just a little narrow circle- that is our world. We have not patience to look beyond, and thus become immoral and wicked. This is our weakness, our powerlessness.


Selfishness is the chief sin, thinking of ourselves first. He who thinks, “I will eat first, I will have more money than others, and I will possess everything”, he who thinks, “I will get to heaven before others, I will get MUKTI before others” is the selfish man. The unselfish man says, “I will be last, I do not care to go to heaven, I will even go to hell if by doing so I can help my brothers. “This unselfishness is the test of religion. He who has more of this unselfishness is more spiritual and nearer to god. Whether he is learned or ignorant, he is nearer to god than anybody else, whether he knows it or not. And if a man is selfish, even though he has visited all the temples, seen all the places of pilgrimage, and painted himself like a leopard, he is still further off from god.


Every successful man must have behind him somewhere tremendous integrity, tremendous sincerity, and that is the cause of his single success in life. He may not have been perfectly unselfish; yet he was tending towards it. If he had been perfectly unselfish, his would have been as great a success as that of the Buddha or of the Christ. The degree of unselfishness marks the degree of success everywhere.


Life is ever expanding, contraction is death. The self-seeking man who is looking after his personal comforts and leading a lazy life- there is no room for him even in hell.


Source:- “Personality Development” written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

Take the whole Responsibility

Take the whole Responsibility

We are responsible for what we are; and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves. If what we are now has been the result of our own past actions, it certainly follows that whatever we wish to be in future can be produced by our present actions; so we have to know how to act.


We get only that for which we are fitted. Let us give up our pride and understand this, which never is misery undeserved. There never has been an evil for which I did not pave the way with my own hands. We ought to know that. Analyze yourselves and you will find that every blow you have received came to because you prepared yourselves for it. You did half and the external world did the other half; that is how the blow comes. That will sober us down. At the same time, from this very analysis will come a note o hope, and the of hope is: “I have no control of the external world, but that which is in me and nearer unto me, my own world is in my control. If the two together are required to make a failure, if the together are necessary to give me a blow, I will not contribute the one which is in my keeping; and how then can the blow come? If I get real control of myself, the blow will never come”.


Nothing makes us work so well at our best and highest as when all responsibility is thrown upon ourselves. I challenge every one of you. How will you behave if I put a little baby in your hands? Your whole life will be changed for the moment; whatever you may be, you must become selfless for the time being. You will give up all your criminal ideas as soon as responsibility is thrown upon you – you whole character will change. So if the whole responsibility is thrown upon our own shoulders, we shall be at our highest and best; when we have nobody to grope towards, no devil to lay our blame upon, no personal god to carry our burdens, when we are alone responsible, and then we shall rise to our highest and best. I am responsible for my fate, I am the bringer of good unto my self, and I am the bringer of evil.


This life is a hard fact; work your way through it boldly, though it may be adamantine; no matter, the soul is stronger. It lays no responsibility on little gods; for you are the makers of your own fortunes. You make yourselves suffer, you make good and evil, and it is you who put your hands before your eyes and say it is dark. Take your hands away and see the light; you are effulgent, you are perfect already, from the very beginning.



This is the only solution of the problem. Those that blame others- and, alas! The number of them is increasing everyday - are generally miserable with helpless brains; they have brought themselves to that pass through their own mistakes and blame others, but this does not alter their position. It does not serve them in any way. This attempt to throw the blame upon others only weakness them the more.
Therefore blame upon for your own faults, stand upon your own feet, and take the whole responsibility upon yourselves. Say, “This misery that I am suffering is of my own doing, and that very thing proves that it will have to be undone by me alone.” That which I created, I can demolish; that which is created by someone else I shall never be able to destroy. Therefore stand up, be bold and be strong. Take the whole responsibility on your own shoulders, and know that you are the creator of your own destiny. All the strength and succor you want is with in yourselves. Therefore make your own future. “Let the dead past bury its dead”. The infinite future is before you, and you must always remember that each word, thought, and deed, lays up a store for you and that as the bad thoughts and bad works are ready to spring upon you like tigers, so also there is the inspiring hope that the good thoughts and good deeds are ready with the power of a hundred thousand angles to defend you always and forever.


Source:- “Personality Development” written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

Change Yourself First

We have seen that it is the subjective worlds that rule the objective. Change the subject and the object is bound to change; purify yourself, and the world is bound to be purified. This one thing requires to be thought now more than ever before, we are becoming more and more busy about our neighbors, and less and less about ourselves. The world will change if we change; if we are pure , the world will become pure. The question is why I should see evil in others. I cannot see evil unless I be evil, I cannot be miserable unless I am week, things cannot be miserable when I was a child, do not do so now. The subject changed, so the object was bound to change; so says the VEDANTA.


Thus the man that has practiced control over himself cannot be acted upon by anything outside; there is no more slavery for him. His mind has become free. Such a man alone is fit to live well in the world. We generally find men holding two opinions regarding the world. Some are pessimists and say “how horrible this world is, how wicked!” some others are optimists and say, “How beautiful this world is, how wonderful!” to those who have not controlled their own minds, the world is either full of evil or at best a mixture of good and evil. This very world will become to us an optimistic world when we become masters of our own minds. Nothing will then work upon us as good or evil: we shall find everything to be in its proper place, to be harmonious.


The more we grow in love and virtue and holiness, the more we see love and virtue and holiness outside. All condemnation of others really condemns ourselves. Adjust the microcosm (which is in your power to do) and the microcosm will adjust itself for you. It is like the hydrostatic paradox, one drop of water can balance the universe. We cannot see outside what we are not inside. The universe is to us what the huge engine is to the miniature engine; and indication of any error in the tiny engine leads us to imagine trouble in the huge one.


Every step that has been really gained in the world has been gained by love; criticizing can ever do any good, it has been tries for thousands of years. Condemnation accomplishes nothing.


Source:- “Personality Development” written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

Thursday, May 22, 2008

Control Your Negative Emotions

Control Your Negative Emotions
We must have these four sort of ideas. We must have friendship for all; we must be merciful towards those that are in misery; when people are happy, we ought to be happy. So with all subjects that comes before us. If the subject is a good one, we shall feel friendly towards it; if the subject of thought is one that is miserable, we must be merciful towards it. If it is good, we must be glad; if it is evil, we must be indifferent. These attitudes of the mind towards the different subjects that come before it will make the mind peaceful. Most of our difficulties in our daily lives come from being unable to hold our minds in this way. For instance, if a man does evil to us, instantly we want to React evil, and every reaction of evil shows that we are not able to hold the CHITTA down; it comes out in waves towards the object, and we lose our power. Every reaction in the form of hatred or evil is so much loss to the mind; and every evil thought of reaction, if it is controlled, will be laid in our favor. It is no that we by thus restraining ourselves; we are gaining infinitely more than we suspect. Each time we suppress hatred, or a feeling of anger, it is so much good energy stored up in our favor; that piece of energy will be converted in to the higher power.

Every vicious thought will rebound, every thought of hatred which you may have thought, in a cave even, is stored up, and will one day come back to you with tremendous power in the form of some misery here. If you project hatred and jealousy, they will rebound on you with compound interest. No power can avert them; when once you have put them in motion, you will have to bear them. Remembering this will prevent you from doing wicked things.


I may remark that this idea explains the ethical theory that you must not hate, and must love. Because, just as in the case of electricity the modern theory is that the power leaves the dynamo and completes the circle back to the dynamo, so with hate and love; they must come back to the source. Therefore do not hate anybody, because that hatred which comes out from you, must in the long run, comes back to you. If you love, that love will come back to you, completing the circle. Its is as certain as can be, that every bit of hatred that goes out of the heart of a man comes back to him in full force, nothing can stop it; similarly every impulse of love comes back to him.


The great secret is – absence of jealousy. Be always ready to concede to the opinions of your brethren, and try always to conciliate. That is the whole secret. Fight on bravely! Life is short! Give it up to a great cause.


Source:- “Personality Development” written by Swami Vivekananda Ji.

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Influence of Thought

Influence of Thought

Just as every action that emanates from us comes back to us as reaction, even so our actions may act on other people and theirs on us. Perhaps all of you have observed it as a fact that when persons do evil actions they become more evil, and when they begin do good, they become stronger and stronger and learn to do good at all times. This intensification of the influence of action cannot be explained on any other ground than that we can act and react upon each other. To take an illustration from physical science, when I am doing a certain action, my mind may be said to be in a certain state of vibration; all minds which are in similar circumstances will have the tendency to be affected by my mind. If there are different musical instruments tuned alike in one room, all of you may have noticed that when one is struck, the others have the tendency to vibrate so as to give the same note. So all minds that have the same tension, so to say, will be equally affected by the same thought. Of course, this influence of thought on mind will vary according to distance and other causes, but the mind is always open to affection. Suppose I am doing an evil act, my mind is in a certain state of vibration, and all mind in the universe, which are in a similar state, have the possibility of being affected by the vibration of my mind. So, when I am doing a good action, my mind is another state of vibration; and all minds similarly strung have the possibility of being affected by my mind; and this power of mind upon mind is more or less according as the force of the tension is greater or less.


Following this smile further, it is quite possible that, just as light waves may travel for millions of years before they reach any object, so thought waves may also travel hundreds of years before they meet an object with which they vibrate in unison, it is quite possible, therefore, that this atmosphere of ours is full of such thought pulsations, both and evil. Every thought projected from every brain goes on pulsating, as it were, until it meets a fit object that will receive it. Any mind which is open to receive some of this impulse will take them immediately. So when a man is doing evil actions, he has brought his mind to a certain state of tension and all the waves which correspond to that state of tension, and which may be said to be already in the atmosphere, will struggle to enter into his mind. That is why an evildoer generally goes on doing more and more evil. His actions become intensified. Such also will be the case with the doer of good; he will open himself to all the good waves that are in the atmosphere, and his good action also will become intensified. We run, therefore, a twofold danger in doing evil: first, we open ourselves to all the evil influences surrounding us; secondly, we create evil which affects others, may be hundreds of years hence. In doing evil we injure ourselves and others also. In doing good we do well to ourselves and to others as well; and, like all other forces in man, these forces of good and evil also gather strength from outside.


Fill yourselves with the idea; whatever you do, think well on it. All your actions will be magnified, transformed, deified, by the very power of the thought. If matter is powerful, thought is omnipotent. Bring this thought to bear upon your life, fill yourselves with the thought of your almightiness, your majesty, and your glory. Would to god no superstitious have been put into your head! Would to god we had not been surrounded from our birth by all these superstitious influences and paralyzing ideas of our weakness and vileness! Would to god that mankind had an easier path thought which to attain to the pass through all this; do not make the path more difficult for those who are coming after you.


Source:- “Personality Development” written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

Monday, May 19, 2008

Words of Wisdom

Words of Wisdom
If you plant honesty, you will reap "trust"

If you plant goodness, you will reap "friends"

If you plant humility, you will reap greatness"

If you plant perseverance, you will reap "victory"

If you plant consideration, you will reap "harmony"

If you plant hard work, you will reap "success"

If you plant forgiveness, you will reap "reconciliation"

If you plant openness, you will reap "intimacy"

If you plant patience, you will reap "improvements"

If you plant faith, you will reap "miracles"

Sunday, May 18, 2008

How to Change our Character

How to Change our Character

All the actions that we see in the world, all the movements in human society, all the works that we have around us, are simply the display of thought, the manifestation of the will of man. Machines or instruments, cities or man-of-war, all these are simply the manifestation of the will of man; and this will is caused by character, and character is manufactured by Karma. As is karma, so is the manifestation of the will. The man of mighty will the world has produced have all been tremendous workers gigantic souls, with wills powerful enough to overturn worlds, wills they got by persistent work, through ages, and ages.


We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care of what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live, they travel far. Each thought we think is tinged with our own character, so that for the pure and holy man, even his jest or abuse will have the twist of his own love and purity and do good.


Great requires great and persistent effort for a long time. Neither need we trouble ourselves if a few fail. It is in the nature of things that many should fall, that troubles should come, that tremendous difficulties should  arise, that selfishness and all the other devils in the human heart should struggle hard when they are about to be driven out by the fire of spirituality. The road to the Good is the roughest and steepest in the universe. It is a wonder that so many succeed no wonder that so many fall. Character has to be established through a thousand stumbles.


The mind, to have non- attachment, must be clear, good, and rational. Why should we practice? Because each action is like the pulsations quivering over the surface of the lake.The vibration dies out, and what is left? The SNSKARAS, the impressions. When a  large number of these impressions are left on the mind., they coalesce and become a habit. It is said, “Habit is second nature”, it is first nature also, and the whole nature of man; everything that we are the result of habit. That gives us consolation, because, if it is only habit, we can make and unmake it at any time. The SNSKARAS are left by these vibrations passing out of our mind, each one of them leaving its result. Our character is the sum-total of these marks, and according as some particular wave prevails, one becomes good; if wickedness, one become wicked; if joyfulness, one becomes happy. The only remedy for bad habits is counter habits; all the bad habits that have left their impressions are to be controlled by good habits. Go on doing good, thinking holy thought continuously; that is the only way to suppress base impressions. Never say any man is hopeless, because the only represents a character, a bundle of habits, which can be checked by new and better ones. Character is repeated habits, and repeated habits alone can reform character.


Source:- "Personality Development" written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

A Bad and a Good Man

A Bad and a Good Man

Every moment of the body, every thought that we think, leaves such an impression on the mind-stuff, and even when such impressions are not obvious on the surface, they are sufficiently strong to work beneath the surface, subconsciously. What we are every moment is determines by the sum total of these impressions on the mind. What I am just at this moment is the effect of the sum total of all the impressions of my past life. This is really what is meant by character, each man’s character is determined by the sum total of these impressions. If good impressions prevail, the character becomes good; if bad becomes bad. If a man continuously hears bad words, think bad thoughts, does bad actions, his mind will be full of bad impressions; and the will influence his thought and work without his being conscious of the fact.


In fact, these bad impressions are always working, and their resultant must be evil, and that man will be a bad man; he cannot help it. The sum total of these impressions in him will create the strong motive power for doing bad actions. He will be like a machine in the hands of impressions, and they will force him to do evil. Similarly, if a man thinks good thoughts and does good works, the sum total of these impressions will be good; and they, in a similar manner, will force him to do well even in spite of himself. When a man has done so much good work and thought so many good thoughts that there is an irresistible tendency in him to do good, in spite of himself and even if he wishes to do evil, his mind, as the sum total of his tendencies, will not allow him to do so: the tendencies will turn him back: he is completely under the influence of the good tendencies. Whensuch is the case, a man’s good character is said to be established.


If you really want to judge of the character of a man, look not at this great performances. Every fool may become a hero at one time or another. Watch a man do his most common actions; those are indeed the things which will tell you the real character of a great man. Great occasions rouse even the lowest of human beings to some kind of greatness, but he alone is the really great man whose character is great always, the same wherever he be.


Source:- "Personality Development" written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

Friday, May 16, 2008

Pleasure is not the Goal

Pleasure is not the Goal. Of man, but knowledge, Pleasure and happiness come to an end. It is mistake to suppose that pleasure is the goal. The cause of all the miseries we have in the world is that man foolishly think pleasure to be the ideal to strive for. After a time man finds that it is not happiness, but Knowledge, towards which he is going, and the both pleasure and pain are great teachers, and that he learns as much from evil as from good.


Good and evil have an equal share in moulding character, and in some instances misery is a greater teacher than happiness In studying the great characters the world has produced, I dare say, in the vast majority of case, it would be found that it was misery that taught more than happiness, it was poverty that taught more than wealth, it was blows that brought out their inner fire more than praise.


Sense- happiness is not the goal of humanity. Wisdom is the goal of all life. We find that man enjoys his intellect more than an animal enjoys its senses; and we see that man enjoys his spiritual nature even more than this rational nature. So the highest wisdom must be this spiritual Knowledge. With this knowledge will come bliss. All these things of this world are the shadows, the manifestations in the third or fourth degree of the real knowledge and Bliss.


Only the fools rush after sense-enjoyments. It is easy to live in the sense. It is easier to run in the old groove, eating and drinking; but what these modern philosophers want to tell you is to take these comfortable ideas and put the stamp of religion on them. Such a doctrine is dangerous. Death lines in the senses.


Life on the plane of the sprit is the only life, life on any other plane is mere death; the whole of this life can be only described as a gymnasium. We must go beyond it to enjoy real life.



Source:- "Personality Development" written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.

Man is Divine

Even this world, this body and mind are superstitions; what infinite souls you are! And to be tricked bye twinkling stars! It is a shameful condition, you are divinities; the twinkling stars owe their existence to you.


Everything that is strong , and good ,and powerful in human nature is the outcome of that divinity, and though potential in many, there is no difference between man and man essentially, all being alike divine.


There is, as it were, an infinite ocean behind, and you and I are so many waves, coming out of that infinite ocean of Existence, Knowledge, and Bliss as our birthright, our real nature: and the difference between us is caused by the greater or lesser power to manifest that divine.


This infinite power of the sprit, brought to bear upon matter evolves material development, made to act upon thought evolves intellectuality, and made to act upon itself makes of man a God.


Manifest the divinity within you, and every thing will be harmoniously arranged around it.


Source:- "Personality Development" written by Swami Vivekanad Ji.